Since Monday there has been interesting report on different national newspaper which confirms God's original plan for marriage. Today, Daily Nation newspaper posted a research conducted by Kenya National Bureau of Statistics pg 12 which shows that poverty levels are higher in homes where the man is polygamous. The Kenya Continuous House-hold survey noted that polygamy was associated with high levels of poverty nationally.
In addition the chances of males who are poor and uneducated having a polygamous marriage with many kids are higher than those who have proper education. And this is true in most of our villages. Meanwhile the Star Newspaper dating 4/7/2023 published a report by Kenya Demographics and Health Survey 2022 on pg 2 that majority of marriages in Kenya are the come-we-stay type, with majority of married women having no proof of their unions, save for children thus most of them walk out of such marriages with nothing incase of a fallout.
1. God respects and blesses unions where a man and a woman agree to settle down with the knowledge of witnesses (especially their parents-Genesis 2:24/Matthew 19:5-6). The scripture in Psalm 133 speaks of collective unity among brethren that attracts God's blessing. This is same even to marriages. And once a third party (man/woman) comes in then that blessing is lifted unless the marriage is saved early. Meaning all sorts of destructions come in including wealth destruction that leads to poverty. We are in Africa and most of us can attest to this scenarios. Polygamous marriages end up destroying the wealth created also at the stage of inheritance. Whereas 2 kids would have inherited an estate and manage it's divided to 5 more others thus reducing wealth inherited.
Therefore, we must continually protect, trust, pray to God for our marriages to stand.
2. To all sisters don't just run into a marriage because you want a husband or to prove a point or escape from your wilderness experiences in search of quick comfort that won't last. Trust God for a grace that preserves, despite numerous challenges of life and gross wickedness that leads to unrighteous marriage unions. I so much believe if a man cares about your destiny in God above his feelings he will be bold enough to go through entire marital processes as ordained in the Body of Christ. In other word, ensure the marriage is registered before entering just to save you time, energy and investment incase of a fall out or sudden death (But God forbid). I have seen women being chased out of their late husband's property because there was no evidence of marriage and even Kenyan Law can't protect you unless God shows mercy and exempt you from such mess. But as long as you breathe don't settle for come-we-stay type. (We are no-longer living in ignorance as our parents did, we are in advanced stage of information age-seek counsel and help).
3. This goes to us men. There's so much sense of security and confidence in a woman whenever she's in the presence of an educated man whether born again or against closely followed by money. A woman can easily marry an unbeliever with a degree or masters or PHD and fail to marry a tongue-speaking uneducated man. A woman can give a chance to a man with education higher or equal to her more quickly compared to those of lower levels unless God favors you or money does the speaking on your behalf. However, a sensible woman will go for a Kingdom cultured man because nobody especially women want to raise al-Shabaab and Taliban for children. Even so, as men lets keep upgrading our certificates if in position.
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